As opposed to waiting until the will is read and the fight is on, why not dispense the family jewels to whom you’d like to receive them, and be able to witness their joy when the gift is unwrapped? This will afford you many opportunities to see the cherished heirloom being appreciated time and again.
Even if it’s not a family heirloom, a beautiful antique can become one. Purchasing an exquisite hand-painted china plate or a colorful Depression glass dish with homemade cookies on it, or presenting a turkey or ham on an English transferware platter, can start a tradition when these lovely gifts are brought out every holiday season.
Monogrammed items that are regifted are among some of the most appreciated. A Victorian bangle bracelet, vintage Damask cup towels, or a silver serving utensil with the family initial, will always be treasured. No need to buy a new item and pay to have it monogrammed when the antique stores are full of them.
Also refer to Patricia Rossi's book titled "Everyday Etiquette: How to Navigate 101 Common and Uncommon Social Situations" (available from Amazon.com). She adds these important suggestions: Never regift in the same social circle; always rewrap the gift; and don't regift the item if it looks even remotely used.
Re-gifting has become so mainstream that that a national day has been established for this tradition. This year “National Re-gifting Day” is Sunday, December 18. Instead of wrapping up that sweater you received last year and never wore, re-gift with class by selecting something from the Spring Antique Mall that was once loved, and that the recipient would love as much.
